Friday, 12 October 2012

Big baby update

I thought I would do a quick update post about our oversize bump! The midwife did not call back, in fact I had to call her on Thursday morning and leave a message. When she called back she had totally forgotten about arranging a growth scan on the Wednesday but gave some cock and bull about not getting through. When we got off the phone to the midwife she called back within a minute with a date and time for a growth scan. Amazing how things get done when some feel bad about forgetting.
 
All this waiting for the midwife to call being forgotten and so on got me to thinking that it’s a shame midwives can’t be midwives. Now before I give me thoughts I don’t blame the midwife personally I believe that they are massively over stretched and I think this is sad.
 
When we first found out we were going to have a baby in 2010 (our first Charlie). I had this romantic vision that our midwife was our midwife, and that she would be a point of reference right throughout the pregnancy. I even imagined that we would be able to build a relationship/friendship with her.
 
However this just is not the case, maybe it's never been like that but this is the image I had in my head. To find out that the experience was not going to be as personal as I thought did upset me a little. At times especially in the first pregnancy we felt alone, and we as a new perspective parents felt well out of our depth. We missed out on ante natal classes first time around because we left it too late to book. We just assumed our midwife would prompt us when the time came to book them. Another thing that we really didn’t like was we never saw the same person during the first pregnancy this just made us feel even more isolated in the big bad world of parenthood.
 
When Charlie finally made his grand entrance I'm glad to report that the romantic image of midwifery came true for me. When we got home the very next morning we had our first visit from the community midwife. Maybe it is because we were home and luckily we had the same midwife for the second home visit. But I finally got that feeling we had a point of reference for all our queries and that we had a relationship built with the midwife.
I really hope that the midwifery profession doesn’t get stretched to the point where the midwives cant care. I really have so much respect for the profession and think they are among the hardest working Britons out there.
 
Here is a little photo of our bumpy at 34 weeks 4 days (pending a growth scan inquiry)
 
 
 
 


19 comments:

  1. Hi there! Found you via Kate's thankful Thursday. I just wanted to say that I always felt the same about care during pregnancy, that it lacked continuity, which is horrible when it really is such an intimate thing. With our 3rd baby, we hired an independent midwife, and although it hurt our pocket, the bond and the friendship between us (whole family really) was just priceless. Our baby is 7 months old and we're still in touch, we plan to employ her again when we go for number 4 :)
    Good luck with your growth scan!

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    1. I would have loved to have had this service I think it would have made such a difference. Thanks for following.

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  2. Hello!
    I'm returning the new follower favor from the Friday Chaos Blog Hop!
    Your boys are too cute and I'm loving the Daddy perspective in the blog world. :)

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    1. They can be angelic, but also on the flip side they can be little boys. Thanks for the follow

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  3. Hi!
    Ive actually never read a daddy blog before. Im loving your posts and seeing things from a daddy perspective. Thanks for visiting me! Looking forward to reading more posts from a daddys side!
    -Sonya
    agrayrainbow.blogspot.com

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    1. I'm really enjoying posting, and I'm glad that everyone is enjoying it

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  4. Fantastic! A Daddy Blog! Love it! So glad I found you after connecting on Twitter. Can't wait to follow your posts.

    Most of what I usually hear about midwifery is positive. I'm so sorry you are having a negative experience. That is probably a function of that particular individual, not midwifery in general. Good luck to you! :)

    Have a fantastic weekend.

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  5. I hope that this is the case because I totally have 100% respect for the profession and the professionals. Thanks

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  6. I think this is the first daddy blog I've found! And I've never had a midwife, but always thought it would be lovely for those same assumed reasons of friendship/guidance. Glad the second time was better for you. We felt really lost with our first one too, and hope if/when there is a next time that it goes a little more smoothly.

    Thanks so much for stopping by! Following you now. :) Hope you'll stop by next week for my Find + Follow Friday hop! And congrats on the pregnancy!

    -Nicole @ Me + the Moon

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  7. Hi there! Thank you so much for stopping by my blog and leaving kind words! I love that you're a blogging daddy - the first I've seen...your wife must love reading your posts! :) Congratulations to you both! I wish you lots of luck and hope the widwife situation gets better for you!
    Looking forward to following! :)
    Maria

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  8. I'm sorry your experience was not-so-good! With my first three, I love the care I received. The last one, not so much. We were high risk with three of the four, but the first two were pre-eclampsia and my regular OB could handle it. The third (4th kid) had an issue bigger than my OB, so we were sent to "specialists". Well, they were "special" alright...they were not friendly, and I had a new one almost every time I went for a check up, which was every two weeks from 20 weeks until I was 32 weeks, then it was every week until 36 weeks, then it was twice a week. For the last five weeks, I found one I liked. Since I was on bedrest, I made sure to get in when he was working!

    ~d @ Dawn's Disaster

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  9. good luck to you!!!!
    I had 3 of my babies with midwives. but you now, we do all the real work!!
    the nurse/husband delivery before any midwife or doctor got there, was the most peaceful and romantic..
    I am your newest follower..pls follow back if you can.

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    1. Wow that sounds romantic were you worried at all ?

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  10. Good luck at the growth scan!

    I didn't use a midwife with any of my kids, but my OB is the only doctor in his practice so I felt comfortable that I would be getting a continual high standard of care. It was also important to me that the same doctor deliver all of my children, so I wouldn't have gone to a large practice in any case. But I had my oldest in 2004, and I live in the midwest, so I honestly don't even know if a midwife would have been an option back then.

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    1. That's true we are fairly blessed here in the UK there is not many far to reach places that wouldn't be covered by the a midwife.

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  11. Thanks for linking up to the Friday Chaos. It's great to see a daddy blogger and a fellow UK blogger :)
    Off to read the rest of your blog now

    Kerry
    www.ohsoamelia.com

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    1. Thanks for hosting, hoping to be hosting my own parties in the future. I have been using your links on your blog to get me access to as many parties as I have time for. Friday Chaos has been the best link party so far I like that you have all the platforms to link up with. Love the posts as well :-)

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  12. Congrats on that wonderful bump! Looking forward to reading through your blog :)

    Jenna @ Call Her Happy

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    1. Thanks for stopping by will be sure to check yours out as well :-)

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